In today’s society, you’re honestly probably better off not knowing how many people the person you care about has slept with in the past. Most men and women nowadays are content with the fact that they didn’t take their partner’s virginity. However, when the average man finds out the woman you’re dating has been with 3/4ths of the barbershop, things can become…complicated. Conversely, when the tables are turned, and a woman finds out that her man has been with 3/4ths of the nail salon and beauty palor combined, it’s more acceptable. Sometimes in casual conversation, or a planned investigation into your partner’s sexual past, you may inquire about the amount of men and/or women that your partner has slept with. Rarely will you get the truth, “2”, “5”, “9”. Most of us get the same tired responses:
“I can count the number of partners I’ve slept with on one hand”
Well, yeah, if you count by 5′s!!
Women lie in this situation for several reasons. The most common reason is a response to the way that most men judge a woman by the amount of people that she has sexual relations with. On the other hand, men also lie about the amount of women they have been with because of how society accepts a wildly sexual man. Uncle Luke admitted to having sex with over 1,000 women between 1985-1995. He went on to state that he didn’t know if he could stomach his fiance ever having more than 5 sexual partners in her entire life. Rather lopsided don’t you think? Well, that’s just how it is. On the other side of the coin, Eddie Winslow was going to marry Supahead…so obviously every man doesn’t feel the same way about promiscuous females. I read somewhere recently a response about the double standard in this subject:
Why is it that if a WOMAN was to have 10 sexual partners, then she is a slut. However, if a man was to have 10 sexual partners, then he is THE MAN!
Well if a LOCK could be opened by many KEYS, then it is FAULTY. However, if a KEY can open many LOCKS, then its a MASTER KEY!
My point is this, I think the past should stay in the past, the present should be enjoyed, and the future be anticipated. Sure the past can be a marker for the type of partner you have. However, it shouldn’t be the ultimate judge of a person’s character. No one is perfect, and for that matter, NO ONE SHOULD BE THE JUDGE OF ANOTHER PERSON’S MISTAKES. Everyone has the capacity to change, and past failures shouldn’t sequester a person from moving forward in a relationship. Personally, I feel like a person can only be judged by how they interact with me and only me. Live and let go. True colors will always rear their head.
Stay Blessed yall….